Happy Mother’s Day!!
I’m truly gutted that I wont get to see my mammy today on Mother’s Day because I’ve got the covid cooties but that won’t stop me from celebrating the amazing woman that she is and when I’m better, I’ll spoil her as per the norm. It’s a speedbump in life but sure, isn’t that what our mother’s teach us to overcome. Here’s a few of the life lessons my mammy has taught me.
Don’t be afraid to ask a question
Don’t worry about something you cannot change
There is no such word as ‘Can’t'
Stand tall after you fall
Be proud of who you are and all that you achieve
Fight for your family
Defend yourself. Lock your backbone in place and don’t let anybody make you feel less than you are worth
Have pride in my work and do my job right
Trust. Unconditional love. Hope. Encouragement. Support. Loyalty. Bravery. Kick up the ass. Truth. Compassion. These are just a few of the things my mum has gave or showed me throughout my life. She has always had my back and supported me through some of the toughest moments in my life. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve not been poster child and I know I could have put my parents through a hell of a lot worse but even through my darkest moments, from an overdose to a marriage from hell, my mum has been by my side. But I’m also so happy that I’ve made my mum laugh so much she’s cried and can’t breathe while I’ve had to pull over onto the hard shoulder because I can’t drive from laughing, she’s up for a laugh and the mystery road trips for a girly day out. Whenever I get too sassy, her east belfast side rises and she can put you in your place - you know that ‘look’ your mummy gives you. I love that! My mammy takes no shit, even breast cancer couldn’t beat her. She is a warrior, a force of nature when provoked and still so calm, quiet and loving too. She just does her thing 99% of the time. I’m so proud to call myself her daughter.
My mummy has sat beside me in trying times. She’s got my through all the childhood scraps and illnesses, she’s got me through multiple trips to the ER, becoming a parent, divorce, becoming a single parent, She went through each and every single stage of my boy’s autism diagnosis and she listens to every curse word under the sun that comes out of my mouth when I need to soundboard or have a little road ragey moment. My mummy embraces me. All of me - the good, bad and dark and twisty. The friendship I have with my mum, I’ve got with my daughter and son too. For that, I am incredibly lucky and blessed to have.
I hope that if you are celebrating your mammy today, you tell her how much you love her. Whether that’s your mummy, grandmother, Aunt, Sister, Step mum, godmother, your best friend’s mum, anybody who has been that motherly figure for you. Each and every one are special and play a vital roles in our lives. Even for those that unfortunately don’t have their mum’s near them due to work or sadly have lost their mummy, remember she’s with you, every single day, she’s the voice in your head, heart and soul. She’s proud of you.
As I do every year, I gotta give a special shout out the single parents, including the single daddies because we pull double shift all the time. It’s not easy and you know we don’t get a break. I think you are amazing and your kids worship you. Even when they shout at us and tell us they hate us. The good times will outweigh the hard so keep going. You’ve got this. And to all the autism mammies today. I hope you know your kids are so lucky to have you, each milestone our kids reach is because you never give up. So biggest squishiest hugs for you guys!!
Happy Mother’s Day!!! Have an amazing day and know you are cherished, valued and appreciated more than what we sometimes show. Enjoy being pampered and loved. You deserve it. Just like my mum does, Love Jx